Energy medicine is for children too!

Sometimes I am asked if I am willing to use energy medicine techniques on children. Although the vast majority of my clients are adults, I am always happy to work with children. Children seem to be fascinated with the various methods and tools that I use. They love the soft touch I employ and they often are remarkably responsive to the shifts in their energy systems. Spinning colored crystals and the many different colored stones I may use are another source of interest for them. The young ones are delighted to be put up onto the massage table; in fact, sometimes so delighted that the session is carried out while climbing up and down multiple times.

The key to working with children is being flexible. I follow children just as I do my adult clients in the way that will best serve them. In the case of children, the following is not just on an energetic or emotional level but often on a literal physical level. A little boy may want to look more closely at a particular crystal I have lying on the floor of my studio. So off he goes – in the middle of a particular protocol – and I trail after him to finish what I have started.

I noticed years ago that my young granddaughters loved watching me do my early morning daily energy routines. At a very young age – around 2 years – they would watch wide-eyed as I performed various energy balancing sequences as if they could visually see the energies begin to come into equilibrium. Like newborns who tend to look just beyond their parents’ faces, many young children actually do have the ability to see the energy field around humans, called the aura or biofield. Until children realize that no one around them in our western society talks or thinks about these biofields, sometimes they will mention a color around a person’s head or body. Usually by the age of 4 years, children tend to ignore and disregard what they once noticed so vividly earlier on.

One of the energy exercises that my grandchildren were most excited about was the use of a stainless-steel spoon on the soles of the feet. This grounding exercise helps people to maintain a yin/yang balance by opening up the bottom of the foot to the yin energies of the earth, thus the name “grounding”. Going barefoot in the summer helps people soak up the yin energies as does sitting with the tailbone against the trunk of a tree. However, in the winter snow, being barefoot is out of the question. So, the spooning exercise was a particular hit with the grandchildren in the winter! We made a game of it – sometimes I would spoon their feet and then they would delight in reciprocating on my feet.

Meeting children and young adults where they are at emotionally is also essential. I worked with one young girl in a distance session where she could cuddle up with her mother in her own home and talk with me via the phone. We learned what was bothering her at night that was causing her to have strange dreams and then worked with energy medicine techniques to help alleviate the young girl’s concerns. Of course, it helped that her mother was very familiar with the work, already being a client, and had been introducing various energy medicine exercises to her daughter for some time.

With young adults – teenagers – it is more similar to working with adults in that they don’t wander around the studio but stay lying on the massage table. Sometimes they are reluctant to ask for clarification so I need to be vigilant in listening to what is not being said and figure out a tactful way to ask the correct questions or give the needed explanations. Often the way that I work is very unfamiliar to teenagers and they can be quite skeptical at first. I spend a good deal of time allaying any skepticism by having them feel the different answers that are obtained through muscle testing using their own bodies. They can feel the answers viscerally and this becomes quite intriguing to them. It can open up a whole new way of looking at themselves. It also helps them feel like they have some control over how they feel, think, and sense.

One dramatic example of working with a teenager occurred in the fall when a high school senior was finishing up his college entrance essays and applications. The pressure of completing these tasks was completely overwhelming this young man to the point where he felt unable to move forward. He began to experience anxiety attacks, although he had never had one previously. After spending time in the local ER with the onset of the attacks three times within a couple of weeks, he was referred to me. After some reluctance to open up, the teenager began to see that energy medicine was unlike anything he had experienced before. Simple protocols could help him feel calmer and he could use them whenever he started to feel anxious about the college application process. He never returned to the ER for anxiety and he is currently a junior in college.

Another difference I have observed with children and teenagers is that the time required for shifting old energetic patterns and learning new ways to function can be more rapid than with adults. Often when I work with very young children, they will move their limbs away from my hands when the balancing has occurred. It’s almost as if they instinctively know that the shift to a more beneficial way of functioning has happened and they don’t need any more assistance. It makes me laugh because they are so exquisitely aware and sensitive to what is happening and very direct when they feel they are finished.

Frankly, it is a delight to work with children! My practice will continue to be mostly filled with adult clients but I am happy to work with children on occasion as potential issues come up. Energy medicine is for children too!

Sheila Peters helps clients and students regain their natural flow of energy and increase wellness through techniques from Traditional Chinese Medicine, shamanic practices, reiki, Jin Shin Jyutsu, intuition/channeling and movement. For more information, email Sheila at: sheilapetersdance@gmail.com, call 781-354-0725, or visit Sheila’s website at: www.energymedicineanddance.com.

© 2021 by Sheila Peters. All rights reserved.

A metaphysical discussion on the meaning of balance

What is balance, after all? It is simply staying in the center; the essence of being of ourselves. It allows us to come from the wisdom at the center of each of us. Not too far to the right, not too far to the left. Precisely at the point of the innate understanding that we all have within ourselves.

We experience it through the body. When we walk, we move first one leg, then the other, and although we are leaning towards one side or the other as we go forward, we maintain our equilibrium because we are focused on the balance between the two legs in an unconscious way. We trust our center, that we will not fall or crumble to the ground.

When we conceive of a new idea, we dream, we marinate, we look at the possibilities. We allow the flow of creativity to travel through us without too much restriction. The new idea comes out and gets refined eventually. But in this first dreaming state we let it all come out without any disparagement if we are truly immersed in the flow. It is only after the vision has been completed that the other part of the equation comes in to find ways to make the dream come to fruition. That process of the whittling down and refinement comes as a balance to the creative time. It becomes clear this part of the new idea might be better if it went another way in the light of realistic thinking. So, we again have the balance between the creativity of the dream state and then the subsequent honing down of the more pragmatic state.

When we begin to discuss the spiritual realm, balance can become less tangible for most humans because it is not found in the palpability of physical matter. We hear messages from our higher selves, or a repeating intuitive thought, or a hunch in the “gut” starts to make itself known. Those that are not quite yet opened up to the spirit can sense, feel, and respond to what they call a hunch, a gut feeling, or perhaps they just go for it in an impulsive action. Those that have a broader experience with the spiritual realm may understand that they are receiving information, advice, or suggestions from a larger part of themselves. This larger part is connected into the Source energy whatever it is called – the collective unconsciousness, God, the creator, etc. They will understand that they have free will but also understand that they are being offered a different perspective from which to observe whatever there is a question about. And, of course, there are those that vacillate between these two ways of accessing “mystical” information. In fact, all humans vacillate but to what degree?

Human existence is but a game in many ways where we souls choose to forget what we truly are and engage in learning new lessons through the covering of a physical body in a physical world. If you can focus your observations from a more encompassing perspective, you can see that it is truly a fascinating and engaging adventure – these human lives provide an endless variety of ways to come back to the realization that you are but souls.

Let’s come back to the subject of balance. There is the fulcrum, the mid-point, the center where sight is not distorted. A little shift too far in one direction will disrupt the balance. The directions are multiple not just right or left or up and down or in or out. And sometimes the shift towards any one of these multiple directions can suddenly move the fulcrum so that the balance point is in a new position. It is similar to shifting of the earth’s poles. The earth does not cease to exist when the poles shift although the ramifications or effects change. That is precisely what happens when the soul in human form makes a balance shift. It is an essence turn, a re-centering, so to speak. From that new perspective, the possibilities that creative meanderings or dreams will have is with a slightly different flavor than what came before. It is growth, it is following the river of life into new territory while still maintaining the connection to soul at the essence of that particular being’s heart, so to speak.

These three areas – body, heart, and soul/spirit give forth the other parts of the human existence that can be played with as souls. Body and heart produce the mind which often wants to take control and be the ruler. It is a handy thing to have, the mind, but it is simply a “computer” to help formulate the needs of the body and heart. Similarly, the energetic component that humans speak of is the child of the marriage of the heart and the soul/spirit. For everything is energy but its myriad forms are limitless. Does it truly matter if energy is soul or love or light? It is birthed from Source and enervates the heart.

As a human child learns to sit up, stand, walk and then run, it is a constant matter of learning balance, finding the center as the body continues to change. The essence is always present but the perspective the essence radiates from will change as new understanding is brought into being. This is equally true in terms of how the heart evolves through emotions and dreams.

Is there one right way to maintain balance? There are as many different ways as there are souls. Each soul in each lifetime has the ability to exercise free will and choose how to maintain balance. That is why there are so many expressions of human lives. There are infinite varieties in the way of finding and maintaining equilibrium or integration.

Look at the earth as she moves through her existence. One day is cold, then next warm and sunny, perhaps in one single day snow, rain, and sunshine will all occur. The earth does not see one way as better or right but understands that tornadoes, fire, earthquakes and tsunamis all have important functions. Observed from a higher perspective, all that occurs on earth in terms of her manifestations have a use and a reason. Does the earth have free will just as human forms do? That is a question for another day.

Balance is not a stagnant thing. It moves and shifts and finds equilibrium second by second, minute by minute, hour by hour, etc. There can be comfort in that thought. For energy moves constantly and heart and spirit are connected through energy.

Perhaps a useful question to ask oneself as we inhabit these human shells, beautiful and fun as they are, is where does the dream lead? What new way of perceiving is being brought into existence and where might there be a new place of balance? It is but a beautiful adventure and we are assured of many more as we move within the orbit of Source.

Sheila Peters helps clients and students regain their natural flow of energy and increase wellness through techniques from Traditional Chinese Medicine, shamanic practices, reiki, Jin Shin Jyutsu, intuition/channeling and movement. For more information, email Sheila at: sheilapetersdance@gmail.com, call 781-354-0725, or visit Sheila’s website at: www.energymedicineanddance.com.

© 2021 by Sheila Peters. This is a channeled message. All rights reserved.

Posture as an Energy Indicator

The other day in my Stretch/Body Awareness class, we did a very interesting exercise. I had my students follow each other around while walking in pairs with one person behind the other. As the followers observed from behind, I asked them to look at the posture and alignment of the person in front of them. I mentioned the strike of the foot – whether the heel touched down first or the ball of the foot; whether there was more weight on the outside or inside of the foot; did the feet wing out, move forward, or wing in; did one foot swing differently than the other? We moved up the body observing how much the knees bent, the hips and shoulders moved, how deep the breath was, how the arms swung, and the angle of the head.

As the follower noticed how the person in front moved, I asked the them to imitate the postural habits that were being observed. As they became more adept at walking like their partner, I then asked them to attempt to experience what it felt like to walk that way. What kind of emotions came up? How might this posture translate into how they felt about themselves and what it felt like interacting with the world this way? How much energy did they feel? As I mentioned in a previous blog from 2010, habitual posture translates into our attitude about life. I called that blog Posture as Philosophy.

When I wrote the previous blog, I was noticing the physical, emotional, and mental patterns that developed according to the habitual alignment that individuals maintained. Since then I have refined some of my observations about a person’s posture and what it indicates about their outlook on life.

For example, if a person regularly holds their weight primarily on their heels, it could indicate that they are reluctant to move forward. We can think of our legs and feet as a metaphor for moving forward emotionally and mentally, as they certainly are in a physical sense. If so, by maintaining a backward physical balance point perhaps we are indicating that we are not ready or maybe afraid to move forward emotionally or mentally when presented with a new opportunity. If this becomes our habitual stance might this mean we are constantly unsure about the future? Afraid to try new things? Have a mistrust about whatever might come our way? We may be in a real sense dragging our heels!

Conversely if we stand with our weight balanced on both the balls and heels of our feet, we may find that we can move forward more easily. In fact, it is easier to move in any direction when we are coming from a point of balance, so there is a greater sense of flexibility. Physically flexibility parallels emotional and mental flexibility.

Furthermore, when we stand by supporting ourselves on our heels we can quickly be overpowered by a good shove from any direction. However, like a tree whose roots are spread out all around the trunk, when our weight is evenly distributed on our feet, we can withstand a sharp push from any direction much more easily. We are already unbalanced when we rest on our heels so any small blow can topple us over.

All of these observations helped me to assist clients and students in changing their postural alignment. They immediately grasped the significance of what their posture was saying about their attitude about their lives. Many worked to change any imbalances and found that as their physical posture changed, their attitudes changed as well.

What I hadn’t understood at that point was that posture also creates energetic patterns.

A couple of years ago, in my energy medicine practice, I had the urge to check how energy was moving through a client’s body as she stood in her usual hyperextended knee stance. When the knees are locked back then the rest of the body will counteract the imbalance in alignment that is created, usually by tilting the pelvis, making the lower back arch, the stomach pooch out, the shoulders to push back, and the head to move forward. For every zig in body alignment there will always be counteracting zags.

While my client was in this zig-zag alignment, she tested weak for connecting up with yin energies. This meant she was not receiving about 50% of her available resources of energy. Just by standing in a misaligned physical posture! As soon as I asked her to bend her knees softly and bring her weight more over the balls of her feet, her pelvis came back into line, her lower back lengthened out, her stomach stopped pooching out and her shoulders and head came to rest in more anatomically correct positions. I retested her connection to yin energies and she suddenly tested strong, indicating that she now had use of all of the resources of energy available to her.

This was, for me, a striking insight! Although, as a former dancer, I had certainly understood the need for correct postural alignment in order to execute dance movements, I hadn’t fully understood that misaligned joints would affect how energetic forces (yin and yang) could be absorbed and utilized. Now it became even more apparent to me how important correct posture was for everyone, even beyond the more obvious physical, emotional, and mental benefits.

I began to check this out with my other clients and found that across the board how a person was routinely standing had a huge effect on how they were able to absorb and utilize yin and yang energies. Nowadays, I am always alert to how a new client stands and holds their body and am quick to demonstrate that posture is one sure way that they can very effectively begin to have more vitality on a physical level which translates into more vitality on an emotional, mental, and energetic level.

What does your current posture say about how you feel, think, and move forward, not only on a physical, emotional, and mental plane, but also on an energetic level?

Sheila Peters is a certified Eden Energy Medicine Clinical Practitioner, Reiki Practitioner, and wingWave©Coach. She also teaches classes and workshops in Stretch/Body Awareness, Energy Body Tune-up, and Jazz Dance. For more information, email Sheila at: sheilapetersdance@gmail.com, call 781-354-0725, or visit Sheila’s website at: www.energymedicineanddance.com.

© 2019 by Sheila Peters. All rights reserved.

Triggering Reactivity

We get triggered by people, situations, and events and find ourselves reacting in ways that, in the aftermath, we are ashamed of, know consciously to be ineffective or destructive, or that we thought we had outgrown. It can be disheartening, depressing, and cause us to feel hopeless, unmotivated, and angry at ourselves as well as others. At a very basic level, this is the basis of addiction. We want to ease the pain or stress that we are feeling! We revert, often without conscious thought, to old coping mechanisms. We just want to stop feeling the uncomfortable vibes or jitters that we experience when we come up against behavior, thoughts, or actions that trigger unconscious or subconscious reactions.

For example, why do some people overeat? Even when they know consciously that they are not hungry? Beyond the taste buds that give the message that whatever is being eaten is delicious, the unnecessary food is providing a balm to an uncomfortable feeling. Perhaps eating has become a way to stop feeling alone, worthless, and unloved for many of us. And it works, at least temporarily! For those few minutes while we are eating the comfort food, we feel soothed and less uncomfortable. The loneliness, the self-disparagement, and the feelings of being unlovable diminish in volume. 

This sets up a patterned way of dealing with uncomfortable emotions. Does the food have anything really to do with the feelings? No, it’s just a method of coping that seems to alleviate the pain of the emotions just long enough time for us to begin to feel some relief from the uncomfortable emotions. And that is one of the hallmarks of these coping mechanisms, they are temporary, and thus must be constantly repeated to regain a sense of emotional equilibrium.

Eating is not the only way to deal with uncomfortable feelings. Humans are inventive in their coping mechanisms! Alcohol, drugs, sex, abusive relationships, thrill seeking, self-abusive behaviors, angry outbursts, and inflicting physical, emotional, and verbal pain on others are other ways that people have found that relieve the stress of their emotional pain. But not all addictive behaviors are seen from the outside as negative!

Another example can be seen in people who seem to thrive and truly come alive only in times of crisis. They are there to help family, friends, and the greater community survive a threat or difficult time. These people become the saviors that others constantly call on for help. This rescue pattern can become so embedded in the rescuer’s psyche that they look for crisis situations to manage and, sometimes when it can’t be found, will create situations where their invaluable help is called on. This is not necessarily consciously recognized but when their assistance is not desperately needed, these individuals do not feel happy, fulfilled, or even alive. Again this is an addiction, albeit often seen in a positive way by the receivers of such assistance.

Being able to come to the rescue allows these people a way to feel valuable and worthy. Taken to a bizarre extreme, we witness the phenomena of Munchausen syndrome by proxy. Although this syndrome is fairly rare, less extreme examples are all around us. If an individual was praised as a child only for their ability to maintain calm and offer assistance in an emergency, this becomes a way for the child to continue to find value with others and self. This is the way the child feels fully loved.

What do habitual unconscious reactions, built-in automatic responses, and addictive patterns have in common? Often they are the learned consequences to events that happened in the past. When we find ourselves challenged in the present, our past memories can cause us to react without even knowing we are being triggered. We bypass the conscious thought process of what might be the best way to respond to the challenge in the present by triggering an automatic resolution that has worked for us in the past. Reactively responding to a present situation always means we are functioning from our memories and past experiences. By clouding the present with filters from the past, we lose objectivity and may not clearly see the present situation. New ways of approaching any situation, whether challenging or trouble-free, can be missed because we are entrenched in the old pattern of thinking and cannot see the new solutions or opportunities.

There are currently a number of methodologies to help us rid ourselves of no longer useful emotional and mental patterns. But before we can avail ourselves of any method, we must be able to bring these unconscious and subconscious patterns to the surface. It has been posited that conscious thought is only about 10% of all the thinking and remembering we do. The vast majority of memories and thoughts are below the conscious level. This can be a major stumbling block. How can we become aware of what is not recognizable?

Generally, how we feel about ourselves and others will reflect any biases we may have embedded in our memories that cause a habitual emotional response. If we are unhappy with ourselves, attention needs to be paid to ferret out what circumstances seem to trigger negative self-talk. If we seem to have a “go-to” emotion such as anger towards others, what is the true source of the anger? What are our thought habits? Do we tend to catastrophize events and outcomes or do we anticipate positive results? Do we seem to repeat actions that do not give us our desired conclusions? What do we really believe about ourselves in terms of our potential, capability, worthiness, and loveability? All of the answers will be reflected in our lives on a physical, emotional, mental and energetic level.

If our existences are in harmony with what we want out of our lives, then chances are that we are not going to act from past experiences and will not respond reactively. On the other hand, if we are not happy with how we interact with family and friends; where we are in our careers; our health; our romantic partnerships then chances are that we are holding onto and acting from outmoded or false preconceptions.

Some scientists posit that we hold memories and, therefore, behavioral patterns in all of our cells not just in the brain. This is one reason why there is such interest in energy medicine healing methods such as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), Acupuncture, Energy Medicine, and The Healing Codes. By working with the body in ways that combine physical touch and activation, these methodologies can help to remove old ways of thinking and behaving by embedding new and more effective ways of functioning in the physical body as well as in the thinking mind.

Many individuals have found that unearthing old patterns through talk therapies alone have not done the job of removing the old habitual patterns. It certainly can help to bring awareness of old emotional templates but by going over old patterns repeatedly, sometimes individuals feel worse and can become even more stuck in the old ways of behaving and responding. Continually reliving past trauma can cause us to make the mental pathways in our brain that contain the trauma to become more entrenched.

We want to discontinue to think in those ways – to abandon the dendrite pathways that cause us to function in the old way. By taking the acquired awareness of what is below the surface (unconscious and subconscious thinking) and applying energy medicine techniques to clear the body of the old patterns, people can make remarkable changes in how they experience formerly troubling challenges. How and when they respond to a situation can become more considered and thoughtful and not a knee jerk reaction. By functioning without the filters of the past, an individual can operate from a more authentic place; from the standpoint of who they are in the present instead of who they were in the past. We stop limiting who we think we can be and begin to expand who we are capable of being. We begin to live in the present without the holdovers from the past.

Sheila Peters is a certified Eden Energy Medicine Clinical Practitioner, Reiki Practitioner, and wingWave©Coach. She also teaches classes and workshops in Stretch/Body Awareness, Energy Body Tune-up, and Jazz Dance. For more information, email Sheila at: sheilapetersdance@gmail.com, call 781-354-0725, or visit Sheila’s website at: www.energymedicineanddance.com.

Summer Reflections

At some point each summer I start to feel a sense of melancholy. The summer scent of musty cut grass in the air makes me feel sad because I know that the long, warm, lazy days of ease will come to an end. Oh the summer is not over by a long shot! But I can hear and smell the passing of the season even as we are at the height of it.

Perhaps the melancholy is more acute as I grow older. I’ve had many cycles of seasons under my belt so perhaps I am more intensely aware of the passage of time. My beautiful and boisterous granddaughters bounce and jump around in the grass, ferreting out tiny pine cones in the trees, laughing at the bunnies who zigzag so as not to get caught, and plucking wild and domesticated flowers off willing branches to be presented as bouquets to their mom. They don’t notice the passage of time. They are in the thick of the moment. I watch their strong tanned limbs move with abandon and I remember how I felt when I was their age. I join my granddaughters in running across the field with arms out spread as if they are the soaring wings of angels.

I think of the plans I had for this season earlier in the year – what have I achieved and what still remains to be done? A sense of urgency emerges but it feels almost absurd. Why hurry, why worry, why fret? Summer is still here with its boundless possibilities and hopes! The sun is shining and there is still time, still opportunity, still serendipitous chance. And so I drink in the intoxicating nectar of the light, the animals and the birds, the smells, and the sounds. I feel the love emanating from people I care about and from the very earth itself.

The melancholy begins to lift.

It’s a bit like the ancient fable about the grasshopper and the ant. If we spend all our time worrying about the future, do we enjoy the present? If we spend all our time being in the moment, do we quickly become part of the past? Past, Present, Future. In a more modern context, if you are so busy taking that perfect snapshot with your cell phone, are you a participant or merely a record keeper? If you don’t take the photo, can you be sure that you will remember the moment?

Of course the key is balance – balance between work and play, enjoying the moment and planning for the future, between action and relaxation. But that balance can sometimes be elusive. If we get stuck believing that where we are is not where we are supposed to be, then we can’t be fully present. We may begin to feel frustrated or impatient or that we are losing out. We may even feel melancholy.

How do we balance it all while being fully present to each side of the equation?

I’ve learned that trusting in myself is a large part of the answer. Having faith that my inner voice will give me a sign or nudge when it’s time to transfer to the other side of the equation. I haven’t always believed that I would have that inner understanding available when I needed it. However, as I get older, I see that my intuition is usually reliable.

I’ve also learned that the more I listen and follow my inner voice, the more the rest of the world seems to echo that understanding. Opportunities arise that resonate with what my intuition is saying to me, making it easy to choose the path ahead. So while I can sense the passing of the summer even as I enjoy the delights of the season, I understand that this is the balance that occurs in all aspects of life.

 

Sheila Peters is a certified Eden Energy Medicine Clinical Practitioner, Reiki Practitioner, and wingWave©Coach. She also teaches classes and workshops in Stretch/Body Awareness, Energy Body Tune-up, and Jazz Dance. For more information, email Sheila at: sheilapetersdance@gmail.com, call 781-354-0725, or visit Sheila’s website at: www.energymedicineanddance.com.

 

© 2018 by Sheila Peters. All rights reserved.